Those who overcome their hardships are strong. Therefore, it is understandable that people believe the saying, “Pain makes you stronger.” However, pain also wears people down immeasurably.
People who have been hurt harm others. For example, 54% of students said witnessing physical abuse at home can lead to violence in school. These students haven’t become stronger because of being in pain; they’ve become weaker because they have to hurt others to feel bigger and stronger, which is a flaw in character. Also, for bullying and violence you can get sent to jail, and yet some still believe, “Pain makes you stronger.” Imagine if all parents felt that way! They would beat, harass, and abuse their kids, all the while believing that it would make them stronger. The government would make it legal to hurt children, all in the sake of “improving character.” Kids may turn to violence in school, as 61% of students said students shoot others because they have been victims of physical abuse at home. Violence is a product of excessive pain in someone’s life.
Besides turning to violence, there are other ways suffering can make you weaker. Essentially, pain is what your body tells your brain when it’s being hurt by illness or injury. If you ignore this, your health would eventually decline or you would die early. How does dying make you stronger? Exactly; it doesn’t. Also, suicide is usually committed because of despair. According to Mental Health America, “A suicide attempt is a clear indication that something is gravely wrong in a person’s life.” People kill themselves because the pain is too much, and they aren’t strong enough to overcome it. Suicide is just running away, and premature death is what can happen if someone experiences too much pain.
Yet so far this has been about what happens when someone succumbs to pain. What if someone doesn’t give up; what if they overcome? Aren’t they stronger, since they can resist it, and have resisted it? Being resistant to pain doesn’t always mean someone is stronger because part of you will always fear the pain. The fear eats away at you, and you become scared of everything because of the pain. Some never fall in love again because of too much heartbreak. Only truly strong people can overcome the fear of more pain, and those people have strength not because of their pain, but because of their character. Pain itself creates nothing that wasn’t already there.
People in pain do many things. They suicide, they murder, and they fear. Fear and pain just eat away at the decent things in you, trying to make you their servant. People who are courageous, loyal, and persevering are strong enough to overcome pain. So instead of putting yourself through pain, put yourself through character change. Make yourself a better person and a stronger person that will help the world instead of harm it.